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asexy_archivist) wrote2012-07-11 12:47 pm
asexy_archivist) wrote2012-07-11 12:47 pm
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Asexuality Q&A
So usually I do these Q&A posts on plurk (though I did one on my lj back when I used it), but plurk isn't always good for rambling discussions. So I'm posting this here. And I'm leaving it unlocked, but I would like to request that this not be shared anywhere without asking my permission first. The things I am going to be discussing here are very personal. Also, please be respectful. :)
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I often start this off with links to the AVEN website. AVEN = Asexuality Visibility and Education Network. If you look under the "About Asexuality" tab, there are a lot of really good FAQs; not only for people who think they might identify as asexual, but for friends and family, too.
I identify as a homoromantic asexual: someone who is romantically attracted to women, but not sexually attracted to anyone. Aces (a nickname some of us use for ourselves, which I think is cute) can be homo/hetero/bi/pan/whatever romantic, or aromantic, if they don't experience romantic attraction.
If you have questions about what this means for me, please ask them here!
I haven't done one of these in awhile, so I figured it was time for another one since it's come up in discussion a few times recently. Education and visibility are really important issues for me, so I've always been very open and honest about answering questions.
I will answer anything, whether it's about my own personal life, how I feel about the portrayal of asexuals in popular media, why I still enjoy smutty rp and fanfic, TMI stuff, etc.
I've identified this way for the past five+ years, and have gone to meetups, been on panels, podcasts, etc. I point this out because I guess some people think asexuality is just a tumblr fad, or something. It really isn't. It also isn't the same as celibacy; asexuality is an orientation, not a choice someone makes.
One final note: I just had a discussion with someone this morning about how they thought asexuality was the result of some trauma or medical issue. This is not the norm for most aces, and a common misconception in popular media (and therapy, unfortunately).
Most aces I've met have been completely healthy people, emotionally and otherwise. And so am I! I just don't experience sexual attraction, but that doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. Just like there's nothing wrong with the fact that I am romantically attracted to women.
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So now that I've gotten all that intro-y stuff out of the way (congrats if you stuck with me and are still reading), on with the questions! Bear in mind that my experiences and feelings may not be the same as someone else's. There are many different types of asexual people, just as there are many different types of sexual people. :)
Also if other aces want to chime in, feel free!
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I often start this off with links to the AVEN website. AVEN = Asexuality Visibility and Education Network. If you look under the "About Asexuality" tab, there are a lot of really good FAQs; not only for people who think they might identify as asexual, but for friends and family, too.
I identify as a homoromantic asexual: someone who is romantically attracted to women, but not sexually attracted to anyone. Aces (a nickname some of us use for ourselves, which I think is cute) can be homo/hetero/bi/pan/whatever romantic, or aromantic, if they don't experience romantic attraction.
If you have questions about what this means for me, please ask them here!
I haven't done one of these in awhile, so I figured it was time for another one since it's come up in discussion a few times recently. Education and visibility are really important issues for me, so I've always been very open and honest about answering questions.
I will answer anything, whether it's about my own personal life, how I feel about the portrayal of asexuals in popular media, why I still enjoy smutty rp and fanfic, TMI stuff, etc.
I've identified this way for the past five+ years, and have gone to meetups, been on panels, podcasts, etc. I point this out because I guess some people think asexuality is just a tumblr fad, or something. It really isn't. It also isn't the same as celibacy; asexuality is an orientation, not a choice someone makes.
One final note: I just had a discussion with someone this morning about how they thought asexuality was the result of some trauma or medical issue. This is not the norm for most aces, and a common misconception in popular media (and therapy, unfortunately).
Most aces I've met have been completely healthy people, emotionally and otherwise. And so am I! I just don't experience sexual attraction, but that doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. Just like there's nothing wrong with the fact that I am romantically attracted to women.
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So now that I've gotten all that intro-y stuff out of the way (congrats if you stuck with me and are still reading), on with the questions! Bear in mind that my experiences and feelings may not be the same as someone else's. There are many different types of asexual people, just as there are many different types of sexual people. :)
Also if other aces want to chime in, feel free!
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So, there's a character I've been thinking of playing for a while, and I'm interested in exploring some of my headcanon for her as having her sexual orientation actually be homoromantic (or perhaps biromantic) asexual.
What advice would you have for someone who isn't part of the asexual community who wants to portray asexuality in roleplay? Do you think it can be done respectfully and, if so, how?
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